I am a Nurse, Frontliner for Covid-19, and a Stress Management Coach.
Kathy Parlevliet, the nurse who knows. Finding the middles space that allows for understanding of our Morale Distress. For me, it is a very fine line. As a healthcare provider for many years and having a seep resolution to participate actively in patient care, this dilemma can shake you to the core. Walking toward the front door of my job, taking a deep breath, and hoping that someone does not ide today. But the reality of that thought is a misconception, that I created to protect myself from seeing more sadness and more suffering.
How can I pretend that this can be a truth? What can I do to support the other healthcare employees around me, that feel the same way?
When can we admit that this is far from alright, to submerge our emotions in layers of possibilities?
Making too much of a conversation about our feelings can be judged. Presenting a compassionate, fragile side of yourself, should be alright.
Who decided that we cannot talk about a normal day at work? Are you supposed to get used to it?
A long time ago, I was talking amongst non-healthcare friends, about death and dying. The reality of my job. Imagine my surprise when one person labeled me a fatalist! Quickly, I responded by stating that I am a realist. Although, I am aware that my occupation sees more death than most, people die every day.
With the Corona Pandemic, our workdays involving death is expected. No matter how hard we work to save lives…they die anyway. Never has this generation of healthcare had to face suck sn unknown.
Sometimes, I hope that a patient will have passed. The fragile line of living and dying has been crossed. Seeing slow death for weeks at a time. Giving all our effort toward a feeling of hope. But what are we hoping for? After so much time in this condition, the patient will never be the same again. We all know it.
We collectively face this Morale Distress. Lurking into every moment of our work lives. Covid has hit our hearts and spirit hard.
Seeking an outlet is necessary. What do you enjoy? Keep your off days for healing.
Sleep, Eat, Play, and Talk.
If you are not able to share any of your feelings, to identify what is next for you. I am here.
Kathy Parlevliet@theRNCoach.com
Let’s talk soon.